19 April 2021

Off the Petal: Spring Flowers, Depression & Humor


The first of the half dozen mixed tulips planted last fall has bloomed. The weather has been on the chilly side, slowing down the warmth for some flowers, but not for the tree budding pollen. Big masses of left to grow naturally forsythia can be seen going south Route 7 into Middlebury, Vermont. Daffodils are also flowering. 

The pandemic is winding down in some ways and revving up in others. Like grief's stages, a pandemic has stages that are similar. It helps to read articles online to understand, feel you are not alone, and as support for the fortitude you have.

Whenever I encounter a solid stone wall of depression, I mull through possible causes. Those activation points can be large and obvious to small and blurry. But, they are always there. Going through some of my parent's kitch and whatnots recently impacts me greater than I realized/small and blurry. Once I figured that out, I began recovery with dedicated effort to improve my diet, engage in positive task accomplishment, sleeping better, taking care to not be hard on myself, and trying to decrease isolation. Imagine dragging yourself to watch  a favorite television show or forcing youself to have salmon with dill when all you feel like is snacking on cheese puffs while staring out the window. I can compromise by muted the television show, not buying cheese puffs, jotting down my thoughts more than I stare into space, and, buying frozen salmon I put in the freezer door where it slides through, falls on the floor to nag me away from junk food. Not every tactic works. Given earnest effort, some of them will help lift me out of the lowest parts of depression. 

Another help tactic: Humor on purpose. Watching cute overload animal videos like the mother bear crossing the road with 4 cubs, 8 puppies fitting in a small tub or the British swan knocking on people's door. A magnificent Awww can clear the spirit as well as a crisp fresh air walk with a love one or shoe shopping by yourself. Strange as it sounds, political cartoons, in moderation, can also help a person have a good stress releasing laugh.

What do you depend on to make you laugh?



13 comments:

  1. Lovely post and photo ~ XX

    Living moment by moment,

    A ShutterBug Explores,
    aka (A Creative Harbor)

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    1. Carol, Your Cape Ann sunset photo is a favorite, so soothingly beautiful.

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  2. I follow some blogs that help make me laugh or I spend time talking to my teenage son. He can mimic famous people very well and makes me giggle. The pandemic has been hard on all of us and I hope we have already gotten through the worst of it.

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    1. Loree,
      Your son is a treasure helping you laugh.
      Many blogs I read do make me laugh, but ones that are comedy blogs, I haven't thought of it before reading your comment. Thank you

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  3. A good joke helps a lot.

    You’ve so many ways to help you through life. Family support is wonderful.

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    1. Marie,
      Attending safe distancing events can supplement family time.
      Even TV can help.

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  4. Good suggestions.

    I'm having trouble with my depression, and know it's linked to the current situation. It just feels like this will never end.

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    1. William,
      You aren't alone having trouble with depression. That may not be a comfort, but it helps to think outside ourselves, when we are able.
      Never end is depressing unless it is a lucky lottery streak. I find planning fun things to do diverts attention from that never end burden.

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  5. Laughter has been in short supply over the past year, hasn't it? And yes, I know exactly what you mean about going through old things. Sometimes it's a piece of cake and sometimes it's down a rabbit hole of sad. April is a tough month for me on that score so I hear you.

    I can't remember who said this (someone famous) and to whom they said it (someone equally famous) but their antidote was to watch Marx Brothers movies. That works for me. I'm not a huge fan of a lot of contemporary comedy but those scrweball comedies of the 30s and 40s -- the Hepburn/Cary Grant movies, the Marx Brothers, etc. -- those work for me. So do mysteries because you have to follow along -- again, the classics like Hitchcock or something pretty like "Charade." They don't make me laugh but they do engage me. Oh, and since I recently read (and wrote) about it, I'll add reading "Auntie Mame" to the list! I never laugh out loud with a book but I did on that one!

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  6. Jeanie,
    Reading Auntie Mame would not have crossed my mind, but now it has. Thank you. A good laugh source is always appreciated.

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  7. My cousin recently sent me the video of the Mother bear with her cubs crossing the road. I had to watch it to the end to see what happened. It's nice to hear that your Tulips have bloomed also. It was such a surprise seeing those two yellow ones in my yard. I'm so sorry you are having depression lately. Yes, I think getting out and not being isolated would surely help. And I'm with you, I love Cheetos! Have a splendid week.

    ~Sheri

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    1. Sheri,
      Your tulip discovery cheers me up. The mother bear has admirable patience. It is a great video.
      A splendid week to you!

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  8. My cat makes me laugh. She is hysterical at times.

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